Is life a bit intense?06 Mar
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Posted by Evolve College News
Part 1 - What can we do about it?
Does it seem like life is getting more and more intense? How do you actually cope with this, when it all seems like everything is demanding to be addressed, then and there…
There is no doubt that life for many people these days is very intense. There is intensity at work, there is intensity at home, and a lot of the time there is intensity in people’s bodies as well.
Does this sound like you?
The fact is, life is intense. And it is becoming more and more so.
But what tends to happen is that people travel round and round in the intensity, with the craziness of all that is going on, and they actually allow that to run them. In other words, they become the intensity – or the intensity becomes them….. It’s actually pretty yuk when you think of it like that.
So does it have to be that way?
What if we couldn’t stop the intensity – and so we didn’t have to try to. We need to realise that this is actually the truth. And then stop fighting it, or struggling with it.
If we can come to accept this, we could actually just accept that things around us – activities, demands, people – are likely to be very intense and are actually becoming more so.
Yes, maybe we could accept that life around us is intense and seems to be increasing in its intensity. Ah, so true, we may say. But then what?
What would that do?
The point is, the intensity that we are all feeling – is actually out there – it is in situations, jobs, demands from others, etc etc. It is a great thing to be able to distinguish what is going on outside from what is going on inside your own body.
The key is – just because things are intense on the outside, it doesn’t mean they have to be intense on the inside. In other words, the intensity of the world does not have to be inside you.
Mmmm, that is worth reading again: the intensity of the world does not have to be inside you.
When we start to see this, we can see the power of observation – something we are not often all that good at, because we are too busy absorbing the intensity and reactions of everyone else, laced by our own expectations that it should all be running smoothly around us, according to our pictures of how it all should look/be. And then we wonder why we come home exhausted at the end of the day?
When we run our lives like this, we are not only doing our jobs (or trying to) but we are dealing with a huge amount more than our day to day ‘activities’ by absorbing, reacting all over the place and clearly hating the fact that ‘everyone else seems to be out of control’.
The only way to deal with an intense workplace or indeed an intense world is to stay very steady within yourself, be aware of your own breath (gentle if possible) and your own body and just stay within yourself.
What is outside, does not ever have to run you.
You can run you. But you actually have to choose this.
In other words – you can choose to stay with you and not react. You can choose to just stay steady and observe the craziness around you, and how (noticing how ludicrous or even humourously intense it becomes) it seems to be out of control. From there, when you are just being yourself – it is far easier to actually observe what is going on around you. And not get tossed about by it as if you are a helpless object caught in a hurricane.
You are not a helpless object – because you actually make choices.
Yes life is super busy and yes things are intense. Most definitely yes. But if you stay as you on the inside, then you can easily clock the intensity of the outside, and the fact that it is outside, and leave it there, then just get on with what you have to do.
Next week in the second part of this three-part series, we look at how intensity feeds exhaustion.